“You should speak more” and “You should open up to people
more” are only some of the many suggestions I get all the time. Yes I’m an
introvert but I’m a different kind of introvert, a special one. Earlier when I used
to get such comments, I used to try very hard, use up all my brain cells to
come up with something to talk about. But I don’t do that anymore because I have
learned that nothing can change my personality and that I must adore it. Today when
people give me such suggestions I tell them that it's a matter of choice. If you
choose to talk then I choose to remain silent and give my input only when I feel
it’s necessary. If you take 100 words to express what you feel, I can do that
with only 50. It’s a talent. I am talented.
Do your friends also constantly nag you because you speak
less? Or ask you to come out of your shell? And
does it happen that even after sincere attempts, you are unable to break your
shell? It’s not necessary for me to say that you’re an introvert because you
very well know it.
As an introvert, you must be facing several occurrences when
you are forced to leave your comfort zone and speak more than you desire. It’s
not your fault, people wrongly assert your silence as ego or pride, or simply
lack of interest and hence you find no other solution than to speak up. And does it happen that even if you try to
prove everyone wrong by going out of your way and speak out more words than
usual, you end up achieving only moderate success? Sometimes does it also
happen that while in your endeavor to speak more, you end up making a total
blunder? Like you blabber on pointless topics and make a fool of yourself or at
the very best offend the listener?
Again, it’s not your fault. It’s no one’s fault. Your personality
allows you to speak only when you’re comfortable and totally willing to speak.
You are an introvert and that’s okay. It’s actually amazing to have such a
personality and its high time that you considered it as a unique feature rather
than a shortcoming. And It’s also above time that you started promoting
yourself as an introverted who is special.
Do you think that this is absurd? Do you feel that being an introvert,
in any sense cannot be something to be proud of? Well, I have reasons for you
to think otherwise.
Below are the 5 reasons why introverts are actually special.
1) Introverts do not require presence of other people to feel elevated
While there are those who always require an
audience to feel complete, introverts enjoy their own company. They are actors
in the motion picture that they created. Introverts are perfectly comfortable
being in solitude. They do not require a gregarious atmosphere to do their
“thing”, they are in fact more productive when alone. But its not like they do
not require a close companion, everyone does. But the introverts are such that
they derive strength from their own selves. They are their favorite
companions.
2) Introverts are extremely out going
It
is a wrong notion that all introverts are shy and reserved. It is possible that
some introverts are more out-going than the extroverts. As introverts enjoy
their own company, they absolutely have no troubles in experiencing things
alone. Introverts are frivolous and spontaneous. They find something that
interests them and they do it, with or without companionship. Be it hitting the
theaters alone, dining alone or even going on a solo trip; introverts are
capable of everything.
3) Introverts are more Insightful
Introverts are better in introspecting. As
they prefer solitude, they dig in deep into a matter, focus on all important points
and then come with conclusions. While there are people who use their creativity
in dealing with other people, making their presence felt in the world;
Introverts use their creativity in introspection and hence constantly stimulate
their thoughts and ideas.
4) Introverts make better friends
Anyone will be lucky to have an introverted
as a friend. Introverts are not the
social butterflies (obviously) and hence they have only a few close friends.
They can count their close friends on one hand and as for them the process of building
a close friendship with someone is tough and bumpy; once achieved they give
their all in the friendship. Introverts know how to make their friends feel
special. Plus they’re excellent listeners and so if after a really bad breakup
if you want somebody to accompany you while you cry, yell and pour your heart
out; your introverted friend will be the knight in a shining armor. They will
sit and listen to you for hours together, without any interruption and after
your sessions of wailing, they’ll treat you will an honest, straight from the
heart response.
5) Introverts will never fail to surprise you
Any kind of relationship with introverts is
never a state of harmony, it’s always a process. A process of getting to know
them, a process of building a bond. They
always carry a big bag full of surprises yet to be revealed. As introverts share things about them as per
their comfort level, at every stage of a relationship they’ll share something
so unexpected about them, that it’ll surely blow your mind. They have so much
that the world doesn’t know and so many crazy plots unknown to everyone.
Relationship with an introverted is like climbing down a step well, you feel
that you’re just a few steps away from the main bottom but in reality, the
number of steps is indefinite!
